Bob Boyle funeral homily
First of all to Rita, on behalf of all of us in this Church,
it was an honor and a privilege to have a front row seat for your 69 years of married
life with Bob. The way you cared for him
during his battle with Alzheimer’s, even taking a job as a receptionist at the
Hermitage during Covid so that you could still be with him every day…heroic
even falls short of describing what you did for Bob and how you loved him more
Sean and Angie, Colleen and Mark, Molly and Ed, Kevin and Amy
and Brian and Q, it was an also an honor and a privilege to see how you all
supported Rita in your various ways. In
our first reading today we heard this “take care of your father when he is
old, even if his mind fail, be considerate of him.” You all lived that out in a special way that
none of us who watched from a distance will ever forget.
The south side Catholic community is a village, and there is
truth that it does take a village to raise children. Melissa Allerd, Don Elbreg, Kirk Heisig,
Myself, Matt Hollowell, Father Tony Hollowell, Kathy Marren, Mike Moylan, Jimmy
Moylan, Ann Reece, Judy Reichmuth, Matt Tebbe, and Candy Thorn all spent
significant time growing up at 421 Daffon Drive and that circle only expanded as
the Boyle children grew older.
Brian started an annual golf tournament when Bob was first
diagnosed with Alzheimer’s with the intent of bringing Fathers and Sons
together, and that golf tournament has impacted tons of Father-Son
relationships, and most of those fathers and sons are here today. The annual golf tournament got a write up in
Golf Digest, and at the end of the article Bob shared: "Thank God for my son. This trip is
the best thing that ever happened to us."
Bob loved the Catholic Church. He was a member of the Ancient Order of
Hibernians, some of whom are here today.
He was an active member of the Knights of Columbus. He loved all things Irish, and Saint
Patrick’s day was always his favorite day of the year. He was a huge Notre Dame fan, which is a
requirement for any Irish Catholic.
He spent most of his retirement in service to the Catholic
Church. He helped with technology here
at St. Barnabas, and his kind Irish heart even allowed him to cross over into
enemy territory to help at St. Jude with their technology as well! He donated his time also to Roncalli High
School, and IPS – teaching elementary computer technology. Here at St. Barnabas, Bob also served as a reader
for Masses, as a member of the Finance and Technology Committees, he served on
the Parish Council, and, fittingly, he served as a marriage prep mentor to
couples preparing for marriage at St. Barnabas.
We hear about the summit of the Catholic Faith in our Gospel
today. That center of the Catholic Church is the belief in Jesus Christ’s Real
Presence in the Eucharist. The belief
that Christ is really present, Body Blood Soul and Divinity at Mass made the
Catholic Mass a non-negotiable for him and his family every weekend. I remember coming to Saint Barnabas often
after spending a Saturday night at the Boyle’s.
It was not even a question…Bob took Jesus’ words seriously and came with
his family to Mass every week, and it formed the center of Bob’s life. In our Gospel today Jesus says to a crowd
“Amen Amen I say to you, unless you eat the Flesh of the Son of Man and drink
His Blood, you do not have life within you.
Whoever eats my Flesh and drinks my Blood has eternal life, and I will
raise him on the last day.” Bob ate the
Body of Christ, and so we now commend Bob to Jesus, trusting that Jesus will
keep his promise and raise Bob up on the last day.
Bob Boyle, know that we will continue to offer Masses for you
and to pray for you. Please pray for us.