Part of me hesitates to write this because some already fear confession, and so me pointing out a suggestion to keep in mind will only make them more nervous.
HOWEVER, I feel that the benefit to those who go to confession will far outweigh the negatives
There are two ways to confess the same sin:
1) So I talked with my cousin Stephanie the other day and she was telling me about the trouble that she's having with her kids and I know that she struggles with her kids and I tried to be Christ like to her and listen to her problems and then my spouse came home and he was stressed out from a busy day of work and he hit his head coming into the house and the dog was barking and then the kids were running around and the house was a mess and I hadn't made dinner yet and then my neighbor came over and she needed to borrow a couple of eggs and then I opened the fridge and got some out, but I dropped two of them on the floor. When my six year old came in and asked for help on his homework, I muttered under my breath but I ultimately sat down and helped him. I did end up yelling at my husband because he didn't help with dinner, so I guess I'd like to confess being impatient.
2) I'd like to confess the sin of impatience
Sometimes people talk because they are nervous, and that's totally understandable
I write this not to complain, but because there are a couple of realities to keep in mind
1) usually someone else is waiting to go to confession. If everyone rambles, then every confession is 10 minutes longer and that means that fewer people are able to go to confession
2) ALSO, and this is really why I write, when a person rambles in the confessional about every sin, I have no idea which sin they really struggle with, and thus I have no idea on what sin to offer feedback to them about. When every sin is 4 minutes, although I'd like to offer feedback, I have no idea where the particular struggles are for a person.
A confession that will truly help a person the most, in my opinion, is something like this
Father, I'd like to confess the following sins
I've been greedy the past few weeks
I've been overly prideful
I've been short with my wife and kids...
And Father, the sin I'd really like some feedback on is ___________ and here's just a brief explanation of the situation
Maybe there aren't any sins that a person needs feedback on that week, and that's obviously great
Maybe there are two or three
But... if a person rambles on about each sin, there's no real way for the priest to know what to do with that.
It is the Year of Mercy, and I pray that everyone grows in devotion to this great sacrament! If you haven't been in a while, come home and be freed of your burdens!
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